1 Minute to a Happier Marriage: 5 Tips That Will Instantly Change Your Relationship

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1 Minute to a Happier Marriage:
5 Tips That Will Instantly Change Your Relationship

by Dr. Christine Holding, LMFT, CEFT

What can you do today to experience a closer and more connected relationship with your spouse or partner? Here are five tips that cost nothing and take less than a minute to make a huge impact on your marriage.

  1. Practice Daily Rituals.
    Rituals are planned moments of predictable connection such as a hug as you and your partner head out the door or when you arrive home. Plan at least one ritual you do every day.

  2. Slow Down!
    Every couple needs a brake pedal. During times of distress, conflict, and emotional distance, slow down the conversation and use a soft voice. Changing the “speed” of the dialog will help find your way through even the toughest conversations.

  3. Forgive Injuries.
    Part of mortality is embracing our imperfections and the imperfections of our partner. If we wait to enjoy life until we have resolved all our differences and healed past hurts, life will pass us by.

  4. Touch Often.
    Safe sexual and non-sexual touch is the language of love. Physical touch and emotional safety are two sides of the same coin.

  5. Avoid the Four Horsemen of Disconnection: Criticism (blaming), Defensiveness, Stonewalling, Contempt.
    Nothing good will ever come from them. No problem will ever be solved by them. 

Give them a try and let us know how they change your relationship!

 
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Dr. Christine Holding is a licensed psychotherapist and relationship expert who specializes in helping couples build loving and secure relationships. She is co-owner of The EFT Clinic, and owner of Sunlight Family Therapy located in Millcreek, UT and Jackson, WY. If you would like a therapist recommendation from Dr. Holding, please email info@theeftclinic.com or by calling 385-695-5949.