Connection Is Still Possible
It’s no exaggeration that an affair or betrayal can hit you like an earthquake. It can shake the very foundation of your life. And the pain does not stop there, as there can be multiple aftershocks; the pain connected with betrayal due to infidelity can hit you over and over again. Although some of the aftershocks may not be as ground-shaking as the initial one, they are nonetheless emotionally unsafe.
“Betrayal Trauma” refers to damage that is caused when betrayal occurs in a relationship. This betrayal is deep and lasting and can change the relationship forever. Many people experience trauma when one finds their partner:
Hiding an addiction
These are only a few causes of betrayal trauma. Whatever the event or reason for the betrayal, trust is now lost in the relationship. One partner feels as though they can no longer rely on the other. Even if the event was a one-time occurrence, the effects of it can last through the rest of the relationship if not addressed and effectively healed.
The EFT Clinic is a place of healing for individuals, couples, and families. We know that infidelity, addictions, and patterns of dishonesty are hard to overcome and that they can create a sense of relational paralysis and hopelessness. With the exception of the death of a child, there likely is no marital or relationship event more painful than the discovery of a partner’s infidelity. Therapists at The EFT Clinic are trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT). EFT teaches couples how to recognize the deeper emotional dynamics that are happening between them (often below the observable surface) and also how to emotionally reach for one another in ways that create safety, connection, and joy.
Although you may feel that your relationship cannot be mended, there is still hope. If you are experiencing the effects of betrayal trauma, or if you have lost the trust of your partner, call the EFT Clinic today. We can work with you to heal the wounds in your relationship, whether you see us individually or as a couple. Our therapists have extensive training and experience in working with couples across the lifespan, and particularly those recovering from trauma. Schedule an appointment today!